What Does an Abundant Life Actually Look Like for You?
Can I ask you something?
And I want you to really sit with this one before you answer.
What does an abundant life look like - for you?
Not for your neighbour. Not for the women you follow on Instagram. Not for the version of you that your parents hoped for, or your partner expects, or society has quietly decided you should want by now.
For you. Just you.
If you hesitated - if your mind went a little blank, or you started to answer and then caught yourself editing - that's important information. Because most women I work with have spent so long focused on everyone else's version of a good life that they've completely lost touch with their own.
Today, we're getting it back.
The Problem With Other People's Abundance.
We live in an era of curated abundance. Everyone's highlight reel is on display - the beautiful home, the thriving career, the glowing skin, the loved-up relationship, the holidays, the flexibility, the purpose-driven business. And it's intoxicating.
We scroll through it and feel that low hum of 'I want that.' But here's the question worth asking: do you actually want that - or do you want the feeling you imagine comes with it?Because abundance isn't a collection of things. It's a feeling. A state. An internal experience of having enough, being enough, and living in alignment with what genuinely lights you up.
And that looks radically different for every single woman.
For one woman, abundance is the freedom to work from anywhere, unscheduled mornings and no commute. For another, it's a big warm kitchen full of family and noise and laughter. For another, it's the quiet - space to think, to create, to finally hear herself. For another still, it's financial security so solid she never has to worry again.
None of these is more valid than the others. None is more spiritual, more evolved, more worthy. They're just different - as different as we are.
The problem comes when we spend our lives chasing someone else's version and wondering why arrival never feels the way we thought it would.
Why We Lose Touch With What We Actually Want
It doesn't happen overnight. It happens in small, almost invisible increments.
It happens the first time you said you didn't mind where you went for dinner when actually you did. The time you took the sensible job instead of the interesting one. The time you shrunk your dreams to a size that felt more acceptable - less risky, less greedy, less likely to invite criticism.
It happens through years of putting others first. Through relationships where your needs came second. Through a culture that praises women for their selflessness and quietly punishes them for their ambition.
And eventually, you wake up one day - often somewhere in midlife - and realise you're living a life that looks perfectly fine from the outside, but doesn't quite fit on the inside.
That feeling is not a crisis. It's a compass. It's pointing you home.
So Let's Actually Define It - For You
I'm going to walk you through a few questions. I'd love for you to grab a journal and write - not type, write - your answers. There's something about pen on paper that bypasses the edited, sensible part of our brain and gets to the truth a little faster.
Take your time. Be honest. Don't self-censor.
1. When do you feel most alive?
Not happy in a mild, pleasant way - actually alive. Lit up. Like time disappears and you're completely in it. Where are you? Who are you with? What are you doing?
2. What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?
And before you say 'that's not realistic' - I know. Humour me. Because what sits underneath that answer is usually something very true about what you actually want.
3. What does a perfect ordinary day look like?
Not a holiday. Not a special occasion. Just a regular Tuesday in your abundant life. Where do you wake up? What's the pace? What kind of work are you doing? How do you feel in your body? Who's around?
4. What are you tolerating right now that you'd remove if you could?
Abundance isn't just about adding more of the good stuff. It's also about releasing what drains you. What would go?
5. What does 'enough' feel like to you?
This is the big one. Abundance isn't about excess - it's about sufficiency. The feeling of having enough, being enough. What does that feel like in your body?
How would you know when you'd arrived?
The Shift That Changes Everything
When you start to define abundance on your own terms - really define it, with specificity and honesty - something shifts.
It stops being this vague, shimmering thing out on the horizon that you're always moving towards but never reaching. It becomes something concrete. Something you can actually build a path towards.
And perhaps more importantly - it stops being about what you don't have yet, and starts being about what you can cultivate right now,
in the life you're already living.
Abundance is not a destination. It's a way of moving through the world.
It's noticing the morning light through the window and feeling genuinely grateful for it. It's doing work that uses your gifts and knowing it. It's being in relationships where you feel seen. It's making choices - small and large - from a place of 'yes, this is mine' rather than
'I suppose this will do.'
It's available to you. Right now. Not when everything is perfect. Not when the conditions are right. Now.
One Thing to Do Today
Don't wait until you have an hour to journal. Don't file this away for a rainy day when you have more time and headspace.
Just answer one question. Right now, in the notes app on your phone if that's all you have.
What would make today feel abundant?
Not next year. Not when things are different. Today.
It might be a walk without your phone. A conversation you've been putting off. An hour on the thing you love that keeps getting crowded out. Saying no to something that doesn't serve you. Saying yes to something that scares you.
One small, deliberate act of abundance. That's where it starts.
With so much love and excitement for the life you're building,
Lucy x
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What does abundance mean to you?
I genuinely want to know - come and share it with me on Instagram @lucystledger.
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